Hey everyone, I just wanted some advice and/or insight to what the deal is and do about it. I am attractive young woman, I work out, train Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, box, run, train, rock climb and am in very good shape. I am smart, funny, love to have fun, am very spontaneous. I love to try thing new, am very outspoken, don’t take shit, blunt/up front, and am somewhat of a bad girl. Bad girl normally means the girl is also very narcissistic, self involved, users, etc etc. I’m not that, I’ve been told I’m more of a bad-ass bad girl than a bad girl, get what I’m saying? Anyways, I have had the worst luck with men. The. Worst. I put myself out there, always get seriously burned or played. I haven’t been dating for about 2 years to do “me” time, to focus on myself to work threw some issues, find out what I really want etc. I want a relationship. Now I want to be with someone, and I get hit on guys who either are great guys but I have literally no interest in. Are married yet still come on to me. Are guys who want protection. Or, which is the WORST, I get hit on by players. This past time, I started becoming very interested in a guy, flirted, we talked about dating, turned out he was a player. Normally, I would have been upset then be fine the next day. I NORAMLLY have the “he’s just a guy, what ever. NEXT!” type of mentality. The reason why this really hit home so to speak and really hurt me was that he did come from a very, very, very rough past (I know that was not bs because I know people who know him). We understood each other very well, better than another guy might be able to. I have an extremely rough, bad, bad past so for him to be able to relate was what really got to me. So that’s why, I’ve been fine now but I will say that I feel very unattractive and, well, like I’m worthless. I’m normally very confident in myself, this just really shook up my base. I like the badish bad boys, problem is, they are almost always players. I need to be with a guy who is tuff mentally and physically considering the sport I’m involved with. A guy who can be strong especially when I’m not able to be. A guy who can keep up with me in the gym and, well, in bed lol. And a guy who is not a player and is worth my time, not another douche who is just going to hurt me. So what am I doing wrong? Why do I attract every guy who is either unhealthy or bad, or is just not at all what I want? What are some things or techniques I can use to detect a VERY “refined in the art” player? What can I do to start making better choices in men? And can it be that maybe I’m to forward or something? Any advice would be great. Thanks!So basically what the deal is